7 P’S OF PRE-MARITAL SYSTEM
In pre marital system we have 7 stages that we must follow before going into marriage proper. Before going into that I will like to make clear what marriage really entails, because a lot of us don’t really know marriage is. For the singles we have to really know what we are going into, because if you don’t know where you’re everywhere looks like the place.
What are things to know about marriage?
1. Marriage is the foundation for the family. When there is no marriage, there cannot be family.
2. Marriage involves two people.
3. Marriage is a divine institution. Allow me to quote a scripture here to make it clear to you that marriage is a divine institution. Genesis 2: 18 {Gen 2:18 And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
Gen 2:19 And out of the ground Jehovah God formed every animal of the field and every fowl of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.
Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the air, and to every animal of the field. But there was not found a suitable helper for Adam.
Gen 2:21 And Jehovah God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept. And He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh underneath.
Gen 2:22 And Jehovah God made the rib (which He had taken from the man) into a woman. And He brought her to the man.}
4. Marriage is the first institution on earth.
5. The institution of marriage is close to the he art of God.
6. God was practically involved in the institution of first marriage.
Now that we know what marriage really entails, we need to know the pre- marital stages of marriage.
These stages have to be followed strictly to build a strong and good marriage.
• Propose
• Preparation
• Proceeds
• Promoting
• Protest
• Protect
• Possess
• Propose: Adventure into marriage starts with proposals. It requires you walking to a lady and telling her that you want to marry her. Don’t go to a lady and tell her that God told you that you’re my wife. God doesn’t tell people such things. To support th is point let me quote Porverb 18: 222 {Pro 18:22 Whoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the LORD. } can you see the word FINDETH.
• Preparations: putting the fact finding to build the future you are anticipating. Preparation should come after proposal because the fact finding should be from your partner. You must make sure you agree physically spiritually and mentally.
• Proceed: you are not permitted to until you are satisfied with available fact you’ve gathered. This time you can go ahead and inform you friends and family. The most important thing is , you must be sure you agr ee before proceeding .
• Promoting: this is preparing and promoting the plan for the marriage.
• Protest: letting your partner know some unpleasant thing that you don’t like. What ever you don’t like, please don’t overlook. Always et you patner know what you don’t like.
• Protect: you protect yourself from defilement. { Heb 13:4 Let marriage be had in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. } ( for those that asked me if its good to have sex before marriage , I think you can answer the question yourself. Judge if it is good or not.) You also protect yourself from hearing negative things about your partner.
I think with the knowledge of this seven p’s of pre- marital success system we should be able to build a success and productive relationship
Friday, June 12, 2009
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
How to Generate Instant Attraction in a Woman (And Make Her Want You)
Attention guys - there may be some men in your group who seem to have no difficulty at all seducing women. The problem is, they won't tell you their secrets because you will just add to the competition.
You can try looking at how they seduce women from afar, but if you don't know the smooth players' code to turning beautiful women into love slaves, you won't go anywhere near the success rate these men flaunt all the time.
But before I share my own 'killer seduction' tips, let's get one thing straight. The first thing you need to work on to be successful is your mindset when it comes to dating. Here's something you might not have heard before: attracting a girl has got NOTHING to do with her, - but rather, it has got everything to do with how you tell her things and how you make your words hit their mark.
So, if you're dying of envy looking on as other men manage to attract girls easily, you will need the following tips on how to make women fall helplessly in love with you. Read on to discover the surefire ways to get a woman attracted to you and want to date you using three "secret" seduction tricks.
How to generate instant attraction using three covert seduction tactics
Technique #1 - "The Thickening Drama Plot". Dramatic sequences and endings make girls' hearts flutter. If you can make her go through an emotional roller coaster by inducing drama through conversation, you will get her full attention.
Women want to hear about things and situations that touch them on the emotional level. The way you connect with her emotions is the strongest tool you have to make her dive headlong in a romantic adventure with you. The thing is, women are always looking for emotional scenes to fire up their imaginations, consciously or subconsciously. If you can perfect this technique, you can get her hooked on you for good.
Technique #2 - "Strategic Boredom". While you're in conversation with a woman, there might come a time when she feels like you're hanging on to her every word. When this happens, you risk sabotaging your chances with this girl simply because she feels her power over you. Here's what you do: show boredom to make her work harder for your attention.
Technique #3 - "Fractionation". Using this technique (stolen from the field of hypnosis), master seducers have been known to seduce women and make them fall in love very quickly - in a span of 15 minutes or even less. Here's how you do it - bring the woman through an emotional roller coaster, and in the process get her to feel emotionally 'addicted' to you. As a result, she will be obedient and will do anything you ask her to.
Fractionation is very effective, but please use it responsibly if you must.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
You can try looking at how they seduce women from afar, but if you don't know the smooth players' code to turning beautiful women into love slaves, you won't go anywhere near the success rate these men flaunt all the time.
But before I share my own 'killer seduction' tips, let's get one thing straight. The first thing you need to work on to be successful is your mindset when it comes to dating. Here's something you might not have heard before: attracting a girl has got NOTHING to do with her, - but rather, it has got everything to do with how you tell her things and how you make your words hit their mark.
So, if you're dying of envy looking on as other men manage to attract girls easily, you will need the following tips on how to make women fall helplessly in love with you. Read on to discover the surefire ways to get a woman attracted to you and want to date you using three "secret" seduction tricks.
How to generate instant attraction using three covert seduction tactics
Technique #1 - "The Thickening Drama Plot". Dramatic sequences and endings make girls' hearts flutter. If you can make her go through an emotional roller coaster by inducing drama through conversation, you will get her full attention.
Women want to hear about things and situations that touch them on the emotional level. The way you connect with her emotions is the strongest tool you have to make her dive headlong in a romantic adventure with you. The thing is, women are always looking for emotional scenes to fire up their imaginations, consciously or subconsciously. If you can perfect this technique, you can get her hooked on you for good.
Technique #2 - "Strategic Boredom". While you're in conversation with a woman, there might come a time when she feels like you're hanging on to her every word. When this happens, you risk sabotaging your chances with this girl simply because she feels her power over you. Here's what you do: show boredom to make her work harder for your attention.
Technique #3 - "Fractionation". Using this technique (stolen from the field of hypnosis), master seducers have been known to seduce women and make them fall in love very quickly - in a span of 15 minutes or even less. Here's how you do it - bring the woman through an emotional roller coaster, and in the process get her to feel emotionally 'addicted' to you. As a result, she will be obedient and will do anything you ask her to.
Fractionation is very effective, but please use it responsibly if you must.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
Getting Your Ex Back After an Affair - How to Restore Trust
How hard is it to get your ex back once you've cheated on them? You may feel that an affair automatically means an end to your relationship. But it doesn't have to be that way. When both people really want to work things out it's possible to save the relationship. My article is about how to restore trust in marriage.
You will need to find ways to build trust between you and your partner. Usually this means adjusting your attitude as well as your actions.
When you had an affair, you adopted an attitude that led to you cheating on your husband or wife. You need to figure out why you had that attitude. There may be something diseased at the heart of your relationship. You want to find out what it is so you can heal it.
Think about what you were seeking when you had the affair.
* Did he not have enough time for you?
* Was your sex life too routine?
* Was she nagging you all the time?
* Do you feel like you couldn't get close to your spouse?
If things were perfect in your relationship, you would not have cheated. You need to find out what you can do to fix it. Certainly, you will need to look deep inside your self for what is wrong, but you can't overlook the need for both parties to analyze the relationship.
Before trust can be fully restored you will have to work on fixing the problems. You may need to seek counseling together to get to the heart of things.
In order to restore the trust in your relationship, you must act upon what you talk about. Deciding what needs to be done is useless if you don't act upon it.
Start with the little, everyday things. Let your partner know that they can count on you to take the trash out, for instance and do it every evening. When you follow through and be consistent doing the small things you promise to do you are also showing your spouse that they can have confidence in you. A gradual sense of trust is being built in your relationship.
You will also need to provide constant reassurance to your wife that you have changed. Be mentally prepared that she will bring up the betrayal when it comes to mind and you will need to learn to be patient and ready to apologize. You can't have the mindset that once you've apologized that you will never need to do so again. You deeply hurt your partner and it will take time and love to heal.
However, you can't be weighed down with guilt forever. If he keeps bringing your indiscretion all the time to make you feel guilty, it's time to let him know that you must move on with your relationship. Let him know you understand his pain, but you need to work on rebuilding.
One of the ways to rebuild is to use the incident as an opportunity for you both to learn and grown from. In the same way that a bone gets stronger at the point it was broken, your relationship can strengthen and get better after the shock of an affair that almost breaks you.
You can get your ex back after an affair, but restoring trust will take time and effort. You will have to adjust your attitude and your actions, but you can heal the wounds and become even stronger as a couple.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
You will need to find ways to build trust between you and your partner. Usually this means adjusting your attitude as well as your actions.
When you had an affair, you adopted an attitude that led to you cheating on your husband or wife. You need to figure out why you had that attitude. There may be something diseased at the heart of your relationship. You want to find out what it is so you can heal it.
Think about what you were seeking when you had the affair.
* Did he not have enough time for you?
* Was your sex life too routine?
* Was she nagging you all the time?
* Do you feel like you couldn't get close to your spouse?
If things were perfect in your relationship, you would not have cheated. You need to find out what you can do to fix it. Certainly, you will need to look deep inside your self for what is wrong, but you can't overlook the need for both parties to analyze the relationship.
Before trust can be fully restored you will have to work on fixing the problems. You may need to seek counseling together to get to the heart of things.
In order to restore the trust in your relationship, you must act upon what you talk about. Deciding what needs to be done is useless if you don't act upon it.
Start with the little, everyday things. Let your partner know that they can count on you to take the trash out, for instance and do it every evening. When you follow through and be consistent doing the small things you promise to do you are also showing your spouse that they can have confidence in you. A gradual sense of trust is being built in your relationship.
You will also need to provide constant reassurance to your wife that you have changed. Be mentally prepared that she will bring up the betrayal when it comes to mind and you will need to learn to be patient and ready to apologize. You can't have the mindset that once you've apologized that you will never need to do so again. You deeply hurt your partner and it will take time and love to heal.
However, you can't be weighed down with guilt forever. If he keeps bringing your indiscretion all the time to make you feel guilty, it's time to let him know that you must move on with your relationship. Let him know you understand his pain, but you need to work on rebuilding.
One of the ways to rebuild is to use the incident as an opportunity for you both to learn and grown from. In the same way that a bone gets stronger at the point it was broken, your relationship can strengthen and get better after the shock of an affair that almost breaks you.
You can get your ex back after an affair, but restoring trust will take time and effort. You will have to adjust your attitude and your actions, but you can heal the wounds and become even stronger as a couple.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
How Tell If Your Spouse is Lying - Ultimate Ways to Catch a Lie and Become a Human Lie Detector
Most of us enter relationships and marriage with hope and trust. We are hopelessly in love and that makes us trust our partners completely. When everything seems to be going smoothly, we get this strange uncanny feeling deep inside that the possibility of our spouse lying could be a reality.
Of course we would hope it's not true but we have to accept facts right? How can you tell if your spouse is cheating behind your back or lying?
Here are 4 tips you would find useful to help you find out if your spouse is indeed lying to you.
If your spouse is betraying you the first tell tale sign would be their body language. Whatever you think is always reflected in your body because both work in coordination. So, check out these four telltale signs in your spouse's body.
Tip 1. Look your spouse straight in their eyes. If they are lying they would definitely avert their eyes and wouldn't look you in the eyes when they speak with you. Every time you confront them they would put up a busy image and try to avert conversations.
Tip 2. Watch them closely as they go about their work at home. You will find they are extremely restless especially when you are around. It's their conscience that's pricking them saying "You are a cheater".
Their body gestures when talking with you would be highly animated. This clearly shows they are nervous and feeling guilt.
Tip 3. Another tip you could use is the need to watch their speech. People who tend to lie will never appear relaxed and their voice will have modulations and fluctuations.
They would either speak too loudly or whisper so you will not be able to hear what is being said. They would also clear their throats quite often before answering your questions and stammering is very normal.
Tip 4. If your spouse has been trying to avoid you in recent times then be sure they are cheating on you and would not want to be confronted with this fact as they would have to lie.
Of late, if your spouse is quiet and tries to avoid you then be sure something fishy is going on behind your back.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
Of course we would hope it's not true but we have to accept facts right? How can you tell if your spouse is cheating behind your back or lying?
Here are 4 tips you would find useful to help you find out if your spouse is indeed lying to you.
If your spouse is betraying you the first tell tale sign would be their body language. Whatever you think is always reflected in your body because both work in coordination. So, check out these four telltale signs in your spouse's body.
Tip 1. Look your spouse straight in their eyes. If they are lying they would definitely avert their eyes and wouldn't look you in the eyes when they speak with you. Every time you confront them they would put up a busy image and try to avert conversations.
Tip 2. Watch them closely as they go about their work at home. You will find they are extremely restless especially when you are around. It's their conscience that's pricking them saying "You are a cheater".
Their body gestures when talking with you would be highly animated. This clearly shows they are nervous and feeling guilt.
Tip 3. Another tip you could use is the need to watch their speech. People who tend to lie will never appear relaxed and their voice will have modulations and fluctuations.
They would either speak too loudly or whisper so you will not be able to hear what is being said. They would also clear their throats quite often before answering your questions and stammering is very normal.
Tip 4. If your spouse has been trying to avoid you in recent times then be sure they are cheating on you and would not want to be confronted with this fact as they would have to lie.
Of late, if your spouse is quiet and tries to avoid you then be sure something fishy is going on behind your back.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
Saturday, May 30, 2009
5 Cheap Wedding Ideas
Getting married is a truly exciting time for the happy couple and that excitement can lead to a very expensive occasion but it doesn't have to be like that. You can get married for less with these cheap wedding ideas.
There are many ways to limit your total spend on the wedding, just because you have a budget does not mean it has to be a dull day.
You can have a wonderful day, which of course it should be and still not break the bank. Remember the point of getting married, it is because you want to be with your partner and to show your devotion in a formal manner.
Flashy weddings are for the celebrities who feel the need to impress their friends and the glossy magazines so leave them to it. A British newspaper recently featured couples who got married for less than £500, do they love each other any less? I do not believe so.
Probably the single most expensive item for the day will be the wedding dress. This is also one of the most important items to the bride, men, take note you will have to take a back seat here. You can trim the cost if you try, by looking at used wedding dress, gasp, horror, used wedding dress? OK, lets take a look at it from this angle, many brides will marry in a vintage wedding dress, for vintage read secondhand.
A used wedding gown can be bought from many places and when you consider it has probably only been worn once if at all then a slightly less expensive dress can be a great saving. You can buy fabulous wedding dresses online so check it out.
The next items are the rings, huge diamonds may look impressive but a plain gold band will be more practical, less likely to lose a stone and be cheaper to insure! Remember it is not the size of the diamond but the size of the heart that gives it.
The wedding breakfast can be made cheaper by inviting a small gathering of family and close friends, wedding venues make a fair amount of money out of catering for weddings so reduce the number of guests and you reduce the cost. If you want a big party for everyone that you have ever met, do it after the honeymoon at a cheaper venue. You will be more relaxed then anyway and probably enjoy it more.
The wedding cake does not have to be a massive commercially made one, if you have a friend who loves cooking ask her to make one, it will make her day and probably be tastier.
A major expense will be the honeymoon if you let it. Think ahead, holidays vary considerably in price throughout the year so if you are set on a couple of weeks in the Caribbean plan your wedding for the cheaper times. Organizing a long haul holiday can be stressful at the best of times so consider a short break in a country hotel instead, you have the rest of your lives to see the world. I hope you find these cheap wedding ideas useful.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
There are many ways to limit your total spend on the wedding, just because you have a budget does not mean it has to be a dull day.
You can have a wonderful day, which of course it should be and still not break the bank. Remember the point of getting married, it is because you want to be with your partner and to show your devotion in a formal manner.
Flashy weddings are for the celebrities who feel the need to impress their friends and the glossy magazines so leave them to it. A British newspaper recently featured couples who got married for less than £500, do they love each other any less? I do not believe so.
Probably the single most expensive item for the day will be the wedding dress. This is also one of the most important items to the bride, men, take note you will have to take a back seat here. You can trim the cost if you try, by looking at used wedding dress, gasp, horror, used wedding dress? OK, lets take a look at it from this angle, many brides will marry in a vintage wedding dress, for vintage read secondhand.
A used wedding gown can be bought from many places and when you consider it has probably only been worn once if at all then a slightly less expensive dress can be a great saving. You can buy fabulous wedding dresses online so check it out.
The next items are the rings, huge diamonds may look impressive but a plain gold band will be more practical, less likely to lose a stone and be cheaper to insure! Remember it is not the size of the diamond but the size of the heart that gives it.
The wedding breakfast can be made cheaper by inviting a small gathering of family and close friends, wedding venues make a fair amount of money out of catering for weddings so reduce the number of guests and you reduce the cost. If you want a big party for everyone that you have ever met, do it after the honeymoon at a cheaper venue. You will be more relaxed then anyway and probably enjoy it more.
The wedding cake does not have to be a massive commercially made one, if you have a friend who loves cooking ask her to make one, it will make her day and probably be tastier.
A major expense will be the honeymoon if you let it. Think ahead, holidays vary considerably in price throughout the year so if you are set on a couple of weeks in the Caribbean plan your wedding for the cheaper times. Organizing a long haul holiday can be stressful at the best of times so consider a short break in a country hotel instead, you have the rest of your lives to see the world. I hope you find these cheap wedding ideas useful.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
My Wife Doesn't Trust Me - How to Make Her Trust Me
"I love my wife wholeheartedly but she still doesn't trust me. Her insecurity is turning me mad and I am stressful with the way she treats this relationship." No matter how you attempted to assure her, she is still very doubtful about your love for her.
Are you one of the guys that is also facing similar problems like this? When trust is lacking in a marriage, it can bring down the happiness in the relationship. How to make her trust you?
Jealousy is normal in a relationship but extreme jealousy can break up or hurt a perfect relationship. This also shows that the woman is lacking of confidence and security in her life. Sometimes, it can be because of bad experience from the past relationships or certain examples that she sees around her.
Trust is important in a marriage and without trust, there are many things that you can't do to achieve in a great relationship. Here are some tips to make your wife trust you.
Write a letter to her. Tell her how much you want this relationship to work but also mention how frustrated you are with her jealousy. Write in a tactful manner, not offending or blaming her in any ways.
Open her heart and make her listen to you. Learn to understand the real problems that are affecting her trust on you. If she doesn't trust you because of a failed relationship previously, you will need to constantly assure her that you are a different guy. Let her know how you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Try to approach her and say the sweetest things that she would like to hear first. This is to cushion the impact that you will be telling her about the jealousy issue in the relationship as she may get upset or angry when you tell her about this problem.
Give her some time and leave her alone. Maybe she needs some time to clear her thoughts. This can also be a good time to let both of you to see what are needed to improve on the marriage. Losing you for a while may help her to realize many things when she is not with you.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
Are you one of the guys that is also facing similar problems like this? When trust is lacking in a marriage, it can bring down the happiness in the relationship. How to make her trust you?
Jealousy is normal in a relationship but extreme jealousy can break up or hurt a perfect relationship. This also shows that the woman is lacking of confidence and security in her life. Sometimes, it can be because of bad experience from the past relationships or certain examples that she sees around her.
Trust is important in a marriage and without trust, there are many things that you can't do to achieve in a great relationship. Here are some tips to make your wife trust you.
Write a letter to her. Tell her how much you want this relationship to work but also mention how frustrated you are with her jealousy. Write in a tactful manner, not offending or blaming her in any ways.
Open her heart and make her listen to you. Learn to understand the real problems that are affecting her trust on you. If she doesn't trust you because of a failed relationship previously, you will need to constantly assure her that you are a different guy. Let her know how you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Try to approach her and say the sweetest things that she would like to hear first. This is to cushion the impact that you will be telling her about the jealousy issue in the relationship as she may get upset or angry when you tell her about this problem.
Give her some time and leave her alone. Maybe she needs some time to clear her thoughts. This can also be a good time to let both of you to see what are needed to improve on the marriage. Losing you for a while may help her to realize many things when she is not with you.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
Top Five Reasons to Sign a Prenuptial Agreement
1. You may not always be in love and happy.
Right now, you're in love, you're getting married, and the birds are singing and life is wonderful. You probably can't imagine being without your spouse to be. But think back over your life - do we, as humans, always stay close and loving with those we care about? Rummage through your past and you'll probably find at least one person you once thought was amazing, but now think is a waste of oxygen. No one is saying that will happen with your future spouse; but it might. Think back to that person you now dislike; how would you feel if they walked away with half of your hard earned cash? Suddenly, a prenuptial seems like a good idea, doesn't it?
2. Love is blind
Sometimes, we can't see the wood for the trees; humans are fallible, we all make mistakes. When we're in love, these mistakes are all the more likely to occur as the chemical dopamine takes us over. As humans, we do make mistakes - but the point is to learn from them. We've all seen disastrous divorces in the media, where someone leaves with far less money than they entered the marriage with; these people were in love once, too. Learn from their mistakes rather than your own.
3. There's no harm in being prepared.
Look at it like this; when you get in a car, you put a seat belt on. That doesn't mean you are planning to crash the car, just that you're ready for the worst should it happen. It doesn't mean you're saying you're a bad driver, or that you don't trust other road users, it's just about being safe. A prenuptial agreement should be viewed in exactly the same way.
4. Weigh up the win/lose scale.
If you do make a prenuptial agreement, you may seem unromantic and like you are trying to focus on the bad rather than the good. If you don't agree a prenuptial agreement, you could lose all of your assets, find yourself homeless and at the mercy of a judge you don't know and who doesn't know you. Most people would rather be protected and viewed as a little unromantic than risk the latter.
5. You calm the fears of others.
Particularly if you are wealthy and getting married, your friends and family may worry about what will happen in the event of a divorce. Your partner, if less wealthy than yourself, may become subjected to behind-the-back slurs accusing them of being a gold-digger. By signing a prenuptial contract, you are effectively telling the world that this is about love for your partner and not your money; and minds will be eased as a result.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Click Here!
Right now, you're in love, you're getting married, and the birds are singing and life is wonderful. You probably can't imagine being without your spouse to be. But think back over your life - do we, as humans, always stay close and loving with those we care about? Rummage through your past and you'll probably find at least one person you once thought was amazing, but now think is a waste of oxygen. No one is saying that will happen with your future spouse; but it might. Think back to that person you now dislike; how would you feel if they walked away with half of your hard earned cash? Suddenly, a prenuptial seems like a good idea, doesn't it?
2. Love is blind
Sometimes, we can't see the wood for the trees; humans are fallible, we all make mistakes. When we're in love, these mistakes are all the more likely to occur as the chemical dopamine takes us over. As humans, we do make mistakes - but the point is to learn from them. We've all seen disastrous divorces in the media, where someone leaves with far less money than they entered the marriage with; these people were in love once, too. Learn from their mistakes rather than your own.
3. There's no harm in being prepared.
Look at it like this; when you get in a car, you put a seat belt on. That doesn't mean you are planning to crash the car, just that you're ready for the worst should it happen. It doesn't mean you're saying you're a bad driver, or that you don't trust other road users, it's just about being safe. A prenuptial agreement should be viewed in exactly the same way.
4. Weigh up the win/lose scale.
If you do make a prenuptial agreement, you may seem unromantic and like you are trying to focus on the bad rather than the good. If you don't agree a prenuptial agreement, you could lose all of your assets, find yourself homeless and at the mercy of a judge you don't know and who doesn't know you. Most people would rather be protected and viewed as a little unromantic than risk the latter.
5. You calm the fears of others.
Particularly if you are wealthy and getting married, your friends and family may worry about what will happen in the event of a divorce. Your partner, if less wealthy than yourself, may become subjected to behind-the-back slurs accusing them of being a gold-digger. By signing a prenuptial contract, you are effectively telling the world that this is about love for your partner and not your money; and minds will be eased as a result.
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Can My Husband Love Me Again? Advice For Women
"Can my husband love me again if it feels as though our marriage is over?" Is this a question you've been asking yourself as of late? When your marriage starts to unravel at the seams you may be too busy tending to day-to-day tasks to take notice. Many women don't even realize that their husband's feelings have changed until his suitcase is packed and he's asking for a divorce. If you are facing a future without your husband and it's tearing you apart inside there are things you can do to rebuild the relationship so it's stronger than it's ever been.
When you are thinking to yourself can my husband love me again consider the fact that he loved you enough to commit himself to you exclusively for the rest of his life. If he loved you once he can certainly fall in love with you all over again. Think back to very early in your relationship and the qualities that your husband loved most in you. If you've changed dramatically since then, it may be time to make yourself over to become more like the old you. Do whatever it takes to show your husband that the woman he married is still who you are. You want him to feel that same spark of love that he felt back then.
You must also show your husband that you still value and desire him. It's easy to get caught up in the stress of our lives to the point that we start taking that out on the person we love most. If you've taken to nagging your husband or letting your frustrations cause you to lash out at him, you need to stop that now. Take time each and every day to thank your husband for all that he brings to your life. Ensure that he knows that he's the only man for you. Once he starts to see that you genuinely adore him, he'll feel closer to you emotionally again.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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When you are thinking to yourself can my husband love me again consider the fact that he loved you enough to commit himself to you exclusively for the rest of his life. If he loved you once he can certainly fall in love with you all over again. Think back to very early in your relationship and the qualities that your husband loved most in you. If you've changed dramatically since then, it may be time to make yourself over to become more like the old you. Do whatever it takes to show your husband that the woman he married is still who you are. You want him to feel that same spark of love that he felt back then.
You must also show your husband that you still value and desire him. It's easy to get caught up in the stress of our lives to the point that we start taking that out on the person we love most. If you've taken to nagging your husband or letting your frustrations cause you to lash out at him, you need to stop that now. Take time each and every day to thank your husband for all that he brings to your life. Ensure that he knows that he's the only man for you. Once he starts to see that you genuinely adore him, he'll feel closer to you emotionally again.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Sharing a Few Words About Marriage
A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.
Pearl S. Buck
What are we to make of the word marriage? Its history shows us a pageant of many different meanings over the centuries, and that's just in the Western world. Marriage was seen as an individual matter, a partnership, a family affair, a way to control property or a means to establish alliances between countries. It often gave a man control over his wife and children and served practical purposes. Romance entered the scene only over the last century or so. Depending on who was in charge, marriage was sometimes held to be a lifelong commitment or easily dissolved, usually by the husband.
Currently in the United States, marriage means a civil contract between two people conveying certain rights and responsibilities. Most religions maintain that marriage was ordained by God as a sacramental union bestowed on one man and one woman rather than by society. Some churches have expanded their view to include gay marriages.
Governments and religions have their own rules about how to begin, conduct and end a marriage and what happens afterward. So how do we untangle these intertwined and contradictory views of marriage? It's not just words which confuse matters. Emotions and money further confound our attempts to sort out the issues.
Taking all this into consideration, it seems clear to me that marriage has no fixed meaning but has evolved for better or worse over the centuries. The current controversy over gay marriage reminds us that marriage is still evolving.
Marriage clearly means something different to governments and to churches. In the United States there appears to be general agreement that a marriage should be between two people although lately not as much agreement about whether the two people must be of different genders.
Governments and churches often disagree about whether divorce should be allowed, how difficult it should be to obtain and what happens to rights and responsibilities (children, money and possessions) after divorce. Civil laws about such matters differ among individual states and rules also differ among the various religions. Although the Catholic Church does not recognize divorce, it does allow a marriage to be annulled as if it never took place if a spouse can establish an impediment to a marriage being considered valid in the first place.
It doesn't seem very likely to me that all these competing views will ever be reconciled to the satisfaction of governments and their citizens or religions and their adherents any time soon. I wonder whether the word marriage may have outlived its usefulness. Could we reach a mutually agreeable solution by finding new names for what society defines as civil marriage under its laws and what religions define as marriage in terms of their beliefs? Stay tuned to the rumblings of society.
Life Lab Lessons
· What does marriage mean to you?
· How would you feel about new terms for the various forms of what we call marriage?
· Do you think marriage should be a lifetime commitment?
· What would lower the divorce rate?
· How does gay marriage affect your view of marriage on the whole?
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Pearl S. Buck
What are we to make of the word marriage? Its history shows us a pageant of many different meanings over the centuries, and that's just in the Western world. Marriage was seen as an individual matter, a partnership, a family affair, a way to control property or a means to establish alliances between countries. It often gave a man control over his wife and children and served practical purposes. Romance entered the scene only over the last century or so. Depending on who was in charge, marriage was sometimes held to be a lifelong commitment or easily dissolved, usually by the husband.
Currently in the United States, marriage means a civil contract between two people conveying certain rights and responsibilities. Most religions maintain that marriage was ordained by God as a sacramental union bestowed on one man and one woman rather than by society. Some churches have expanded their view to include gay marriages.
Governments and religions have their own rules about how to begin, conduct and end a marriage and what happens afterward. So how do we untangle these intertwined and contradictory views of marriage? It's not just words which confuse matters. Emotions and money further confound our attempts to sort out the issues.
Taking all this into consideration, it seems clear to me that marriage has no fixed meaning but has evolved for better or worse over the centuries. The current controversy over gay marriage reminds us that marriage is still evolving.
Marriage clearly means something different to governments and to churches. In the United States there appears to be general agreement that a marriage should be between two people although lately not as much agreement about whether the two people must be of different genders.
Governments and churches often disagree about whether divorce should be allowed, how difficult it should be to obtain and what happens to rights and responsibilities (children, money and possessions) after divorce. Civil laws about such matters differ among individual states and rules also differ among the various religions. Although the Catholic Church does not recognize divorce, it does allow a marriage to be annulled as if it never took place if a spouse can establish an impediment to a marriage being considered valid in the first place.
It doesn't seem very likely to me that all these competing views will ever be reconciled to the satisfaction of governments and their citizens or religions and their adherents any time soon. I wonder whether the word marriage may have outlived its usefulness. Could we reach a mutually agreeable solution by finding new names for what society defines as civil marriage under its laws and what religions define as marriage in terms of their beliefs? Stay tuned to the rumblings of society.
Life Lab Lessons
· What does marriage mean to you?
· How would you feel about new terms for the various forms of what we call marriage?
· Do you think marriage should be a lifetime commitment?
· What would lower the divorce rate?
· How does gay marriage affect your view of marriage on the whole?
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Your Marriage - The Gift That Keeps on Giving - Finding Alternatives to Marriage Counseling
While exploring options for marriage counseling or alternatives to marriage counseling, think of your marriage as a gift that keeps on giving. How many times in the last day, week, or month has your spouse done something for you that was pleasing? You might need to think even further if you've had a troubled marriage for a long time.
When your husband or wife did these nice things for you, how did you respond? As the recent memories of the wedding fades away and the newness of your marriage wears off, it's common for couples to take their marriage for granted.
Use this analogy for your marriage:
We all know the story about the goose that laid the golden eggs. Everyday, a poor farmer would receive a gift of a golden egg from his goose; making him very rich. After receiving his gifts for a while, the farmer got tired of waiting for his goose. He wanted all of his gifts at once so he tore open his goose looking for his golden eggs. In the end, by being so impatient and taking his situation for granted, he ruined the best thing he had going for him. Obviously, there were no golden eggs and his goose is dead. He didn't realize what he actually had until it was gone.
What are some of the gifts a relationship can offer and why might you find an alternative to marriage counseling?
First of all, a good relationship offers companionship, fun and intimacy. Just to name a few. Then there are the little, everyday gifts that are given and received almost as second nature. For instance, making your spouse a cup of tea in the morning, doing each other's errands if they are tired, or participating in a particular interest your spouse has. These are all little, everyday gifts that are often taken for granted in a marriage because most people become selfish and impatient. They stop giving common courtesies, time and energy, and start being more thoughtless.
Wrapping up the analogy, most people's inappropriate behavior in their marriage are their efforts to gather the golden eggs. They're not intentionally trying to kill the goose but their impatience of receiving the golden eggs is ruining the marriage. Couples don't realize what they actually had until the marriage is gone.
Your relationship is strong in the beginning and a marriage can be the gift that keeps on giving. You've got to learn to take care of it if you want to continue to receive the golden eggs.
Being able to do this year after year is something very few people know how to do. Renewing your marriage and maintaining love in your relationship can be like learning anything new. It might seem difficult or even impossible in the beginning. Maybe all it takes is for someone to show you how to do it.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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When your husband or wife did these nice things for you, how did you respond? As the recent memories of the wedding fades away and the newness of your marriage wears off, it's common for couples to take their marriage for granted.
Use this analogy for your marriage:
We all know the story about the goose that laid the golden eggs. Everyday, a poor farmer would receive a gift of a golden egg from his goose; making him very rich. After receiving his gifts for a while, the farmer got tired of waiting for his goose. He wanted all of his gifts at once so he tore open his goose looking for his golden eggs. In the end, by being so impatient and taking his situation for granted, he ruined the best thing he had going for him. Obviously, there were no golden eggs and his goose is dead. He didn't realize what he actually had until it was gone.
What are some of the gifts a relationship can offer and why might you find an alternative to marriage counseling?
First of all, a good relationship offers companionship, fun and intimacy. Just to name a few. Then there are the little, everyday gifts that are given and received almost as second nature. For instance, making your spouse a cup of tea in the morning, doing each other's errands if they are tired, or participating in a particular interest your spouse has. These are all little, everyday gifts that are often taken for granted in a marriage because most people become selfish and impatient. They stop giving common courtesies, time and energy, and start being more thoughtless.
Wrapping up the analogy, most people's inappropriate behavior in their marriage are their efforts to gather the golden eggs. They're not intentionally trying to kill the goose but their impatience of receiving the golden eggs is ruining the marriage. Couples don't realize what they actually had until the marriage is gone.
Your relationship is strong in the beginning and a marriage can be the gift that keeps on giving. You've got to learn to take care of it if you want to continue to receive the golden eggs.
Being able to do this year after year is something very few people know how to do. Renewing your marriage and maintaining love in your relationship can be like learning anything new. It might seem difficult or even impossible in the beginning. Maybe all it takes is for someone to show you how to do it.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Making Your Wife Happy
Many men believe that pleasing a woman means pleasing her physically in the bedroom. This is in most cases the least of their concerns. As a married man most of you realize there is a lot more to pleasing a woman than what you do in the bedroom.
For both the physical relationship and the emotional relationship it is much better to try to focus on what pleases her in life. If you find little ways to please your wife everyday, outside the bedroom. you will find she is satisfied in and out of the bedroom.
By doing this you will learn the the key to a great sex life is having a true knowledge and understanding of your wife as a person. Knowing her needs and what she is longing for emotionally will aid the friendship in your marriage and bring forth a closer more intimate relationship.
Sex is important but it is just one part of a marriage. Another very important part of marriage is communication. Communication is essential to both the physical and emotional components of any and every marriage.
If you truly take the time to get to know your wife and her needs, and allow her to know you on a more intimate level as well you will see a significant difference in your relationship. Try changing the focus from pleasing your wife in bed to pleasing her everyday outside the bedroom, and you will see changes in your sex life that you never thought possible.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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For both the physical relationship and the emotional relationship it is much better to try to focus on what pleases her in life. If you find little ways to please your wife everyday, outside the bedroom. you will find she is satisfied in and out of the bedroom.
By doing this you will learn the the key to a great sex life is having a true knowledge and understanding of your wife as a person. Knowing her needs and what she is longing for emotionally will aid the friendship in your marriage and bring forth a closer more intimate relationship.
Sex is important but it is just one part of a marriage. Another very important part of marriage is communication. Communication is essential to both the physical and emotional components of any and every marriage.
If you truly take the time to get to know your wife and her needs, and allow her to know you on a more intimate level as well you will see a significant difference in your relationship. Try changing the focus from pleasing your wife in bed to pleasing her everyday outside the bedroom, and you will see changes in your sex life that you never thought possible.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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To Save a Marriage - Ways to Go About Saving a Marriage
Here you will find ways to go about to save a marriage. I expect that is what you were looking for if you are here now.
Congratulations on taking your first step towards saving your marriage. Clearly, you are willing put in the necessary effort. It appears you realized there was a need for a change and luckily, you did. Unfortunately, a majority do not realize until it is too late. Let's start now on ways to go about to save a marriage.
Communication is key within a marriage. It helps to sit down and talk. Discuss with your spouse, rather than yelling or arguing with them, which never works. Instead, give them the floor and hear what they have to say. I know it may tempt you at times, but don't interrupt.
Interrupting them will not help anything. You do not want to turn a talk that is supposed to get somewhere into a brawl. You will have your chance to talk and they will give you the same respect you give them.
When it does come time for you to talk, tell them how you have been feeling. Describe to them the way everything has been making you feel. If they said something that you did not like, tell them how it hurt you and want to know why they would say that. No need for arguing or tears, you're just talking.
Let them know how much you care about them, even though you may think that you do enough. Sometimes we let the little things get away from us and don't realize how much it means to the other person. Just doing the little daily things as making a cup of coffee or planning a romantic date, mean a lot.
Continuing to live together will help with the two of you getting back together.
I cannot stress enough how much easier things will be if the two of you live together. Of course, this does not apply to everyone. There are cases where the relationship is not repairing. In any case, of risk to your safety or anything along those lines, separation and more would be a smart option. If the relationship appears, one that salvageable, then separation may do more harm than good, but it all depends and there are varying opinions corresponding to separation and ways to save a marriage.
Therapy should always be a consideration. The negative stigmatization once attached no longer remains as once before. Individual therapy offers you a place to go and vent your frustrations. Just think of it as a helpful ear lend. If you can get your spouse to go to marriage counseling then this, I strongly recommend. Marriage therapy offers a place for the two of you to go and speak with each other in a healthy manner. Even those without major difficulties have found marriage therapy beneficial.
As everyone learns after the honeymoon phase of their marriage, it requires a lot of work from both people involved. Some are shocked after finding this out and this goes beyond their initial expectations, resulting in the end of the marriage. There are problems in any relationship and whether each within the relationship decide to face up to them together. The most important way to save a marriage is communication between both partners
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Congratulations on taking your first step towards saving your marriage. Clearly, you are willing put in the necessary effort. It appears you realized there was a need for a change and luckily, you did. Unfortunately, a majority do not realize until it is too late. Let's start now on ways to go about to save a marriage.
Communication is key within a marriage. It helps to sit down and talk. Discuss with your spouse, rather than yelling or arguing with them, which never works. Instead, give them the floor and hear what they have to say. I know it may tempt you at times, but don't interrupt.
Interrupting them will not help anything. You do not want to turn a talk that is supposed to get somewhere into a brawl. You will have your chance to talk and they will give you the same respect you give them.
When it does come time for you to talk, tell them how you have been feeling. Describe to them the way everything has been making you feel. If they said something that you did not like, tell them how it hurt you and want to know why they would say that. No need for arguing or tears, you're just talking.
Let them know how much you care about them, even though you may think that you do enough. Sometimes we let the little things get away from us and don't realize how much it means to the other person. Just doing the little daily things as making a cup of coffee or planning a romantic date, mean a lot.
Continuing to live together will help with the two of you getting back together.
I cannot stress enough how much easier things will be if the two of you live together. Of course, this does not apply to everyone. There are cases where the relationship is not repairing. In any case, of risk to your safety or anything along those lines, separation and more would be a smart option. If the relationship appears, one that salvageable, then separation may do more harm than good, but it all depends and there are varying opinions corresponding to separation and ways to save a marriage.
Therapy should always be a consideration. The negative stigmatization once attached no longer remains as once before. Individual therapy offers you a place to go and vent your frustrations. Just think of it as a helpful ear lend. If you can get your spouse to go to marriage counseling then this, I strongly recommend. Marriage therapy offers a place for the two of you to go and speak with each other in a healthy manner. Even those without major difficulties have found marriage therapy beneficial.
As everyone learns after the honeymoon phase of their marriage, it requires a lot of work from both people involved. Some are shocked after finding this out and this goes beyond their initial expectations, resulting in the end of the marriage. There are problems in any relationship and whether each within the relationship decide to face up to them together. The most important way to save a marriage is communication between both partners
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Making a Lifelong Commitment - Marriage
Marriage is a lifelong commitment and yet so many end up in divorce, around half or the, so committing to one another through marriage is not a step which should be taken lightly! Marrying your partner can be the most satisfying and fulfilling act of your life but in the same breath, it can be the biggest mistake you will ever make. You should carefully consider what is likely to make a successful marriage and keep your relationship happy and full of contentment and love; the rewards are huge but as any couple who have been married for years will tell you, it takes both of you to work very hard and enjoy not only the ups but also work together and support each other through the bad times.
Treat Your Marriage with Loving Care and Respect
When two people marry, they are no longer individuals they are a team working, living and loving together for the benefit of themselves and their family; not just the immediate family who come to the wedding but also their own children and grandchildren (even great-grandchildren if you start soon enough).
Treat your marriage and spouse as a genuine rarity and your most prized possession. Give the respect to one another for their individuality and uniqueness because you are so close, no other is ever going to understand or experience your spouse in the way that you do. This is not simply about sex, but about sharing the road through life as it twists and turns with no guide map to show you the way or what is waiting for you both around the corner. Learn to appreciate and enjoy your lives both as individuals but more importantly as a partnership; the adage applies that the more you give the more you receive!
Marriage requires consensus in the broadest sense of the word and yet, there are only two of you needed to achieve it. Living your life as a couple will require sacrifice and you can be assured the rough edges of your personality will become much more rounded as you explore and adapt to one another; a feature of a good marriage is both spouses seek to improve themselves and each other and after all, life changes us as we go through it no matter how obstinate our personalities may be. Embracing each other is as much about self-improvement and personal development as it is about being comfortable or settled with one another. You should actively look for ways in which you can be a better husband or wife and express your creativity which in turn will add interest and spice to your marriage and prevent it from becoming stale and mundane.
Falling in love is the easy part of any relationship with its heady mix of high emotion mixed with romance and excitement; keeping this unique spark alive requires effort from both of you and you should never take the love you have for one another for granted. That road leads to unhappiness and the divorce courts but even when times are exceedingly hard and trying, remembering the love you have for one another and working towards making each other happy first will result in a much greater level of contentment and happiness for both of you.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Treat Your Marriage with Loving Care and Respect
When two people marry, they are no longer individuals they are a team working, living and loving together for the benefit of themselves and their family; not just the immediate family who come to the wedding but also their own children and grandchildren (even great-grandchildren if you start soon enough).
Treat your marriage and spouse as a genuine rarity and your most prized possession. Give the respect to one another for their individuality and uniqueness because you are so close, no other is ever going to understand or experience your spouse in the way that you do. This is not simply about sex, but about sharing the road through life as it twists and turns with no guide map to show you the way or what is waiting for you both around the corner. Learn to appreciate and enjoy your lives both as individuals but more importantly as a partnership; the adage applies that the more you give the more you receive!
Marriage requires consensus in the broadest sense of the word and yet, there are only two of you needed to achieve it. Living your life as a couple will require sacrifice and you can be assured the rough edges of your personality will become much more rounded as you explore and adapt to one another; a feature of a good marriage is both spouses seek to improve themselves and each other and after all, life changes us as we go through it no matter how obstinate our personalities may be. Embracing each other is as much about self-improvement and personal development as it is about being comfortable or settled with one another. You should actively look for ways in which you can be a better husband or wife and express your creativity which in turn will add interest and spice to your marriage and prevent it from becoming stale and mundane.
Falling in love is the easy part of any relationship with its heady mix of high emotion mixed with romance and excitement; keeping this unique spark alive requires effort from both of you and you should never take the love you have for one another for granted. That road leads to unhappiness and the divorce courts but even when times are exceedingly hard and trying, remembering the love you have for one another and working towards making each other happy first will result in a much greater level of contentment and happiness for both of you.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Keeping a Happy Marriage - Your Happiness Your Choice
Keeping a happy marriage can require a lot of work if you approach it with the wrong attitude which is that of believing it is hard and takes sacrifice. The truth is it can be easy! Though you do need to do a number of small things right a lot of times but this can become habitual just as happiness can become a habit too!
A shift in attitude is the first thing you must master to keep a happy marriage because so many people believe that happiness stems from either money or the efforts of their partner when the truth is happiness is a CHOICE. We each choose to be happy and while the pressures of life can make that difficult we can always choose to approach each challenge with a positive attitude of a negative one ... which do you think breeds happiness in a marriage?
Another problem is many people think that if their partner is not trying just as hard as you then things are bad and a spiral of resentment and anger can develop destroying your marital bliss. While it can be frustrating when your spouse does not seem to put the same effort into your relationship as you do the tendency to become argumentative and petty as some sort of revenge act is the last thing you want to do because this makes you miserable and your wife of husband too.
Instead you must choose to be happy, you must choose to be positive and apply some simple rules to your relationship that if you follow you will get guaranteed reciprocation from your partner which becomes synergizes and builds happiness at an exponential rate!
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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A shift in attitude is the first thing you must master to keep a happy marriage because so many people believe that happiness stems from either money or the efforts of their partner when the truth is happiness is a CHOICE. We each choose to be happy and while the pressures of life can make that difficult we can always choose to approach each challenge with a positive attitude of a negative one ... which do you think breeds happiness in a marriage?
Another problem is many people think that if their partner is not trying just as hard as you then things are bad and a spiral of resentment and anger can develop destroying your marital bliss. While it can be frustrating when your spouse does not seem to put the same effort into your relationship as you do the tendency to become argumentative and petty as some sort of revenge act is the last thing you want to do because this makes you miserable and your wife of husband too.
Instead you must choose to be happy, you must choose to be positive and apply some simple rules to your relationship that if you follow you will get guaranteed reciprocation from your partner which becomes synergizes and builds happiness at an exponential rate!
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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Marriage Compatibility - Is it Even Worth Considering?
One of the many questions that people ask when they have been dating for a while is "Are we compatible for marriage?"
Society shows that divorces are lower in couples who come from the same age groups, with similar backgrounds, same socio-economic groups, and similar faiths and belief systems.
There are reasons for this. Maybe if both persons grew up in a poor neighbourhood they would be able to cope better when things are tight. They may both have lower than average expectations of wealth. They may simply be able to budget better, a skill perhaps learned from their parents.
But if one partner is from a better off family they could end up feeling that their partner is a penny-pincher and resent it.
Money is a big source of conflict for many couples. Because it affects not just day to day life, but also peoples long term aspirations too.
One part of a couple could want to save for a house, for instance, but the other person my see no point in saving, having a more "live for today" attitude. It's easy to see how conflict would result in this scenario.
One person in the partnership could feel the need to be rich - perhaps working more than one job, whereas the other partner may be more accepting of the standard of living they had. This is another possible area of conflict.
Age, some people will attest, doesn't matter. Well, a few years don't matter, but large gaps of ten years plus do.
It is easy to see how the older partner would become less secure if they felt their age was showing more. They may need their self esteem boosting more, and this can lead to them becoming demanding, clingy and perhaps making their partner feel suffocated. They may get jealous which is hugely detrimental to a marriage.
These are just a couple of reasons that marriage compatibility should always be considered.
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Society shows that divorces are lower in couples who come from the same age groups, with similar backgrounds, same socio-economic groups, and similar faiths and belief systems.
There are reasons for this. Maybe if both persons grew up in a poor neighbourhood they would be able to cope better when things are tight. They may both have lower than average expectations of wealth. They may simply be able to budget better, a skill perhaps learned from their parents.
But if one partner is from a better off family they could end up feeling that their partner is a penny-pincher and resent it.
Money is a big source of conflict for many couples. Because it affects not just day to day life, but also peoples long term aspirations too.
One part of a couple could want to save for a house, for instance, but the other person my see no point in saving, having a more "live for today" attitude. It's easy to see how conflict would result in this scenario.
One person in the partnership could feel the need to be rich - perhaps working more than one job, whereas the other partner may be more accepting of the standard of living they had. This is another possible area of conflict.
Age, some people will attest, doesn't matter. Well, a few years don't matter, but large gaps of ten years plus do.
It is easy to see how the older partner would become less secure if they felt their age was showing more. They may need their self esteem boosting more, and this can lead to them becoming demanding, clingy and perhaps making their partner feel suffocated. They may get jealous which is hugely detrimental to a marriage.
These are just a couple of reasons that marriage compatibility should always be considered.
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I Need Ways to Save My Marriage Today and Prove to My Spouse That I Still Care, Before It's Too Late
From the moment you start to wonder "how can I save my marriage today!" you're no doubt stressed and worried about just what you should be doing. That being the case, take a deep breath, stop panicking and believe right now that it is very possible, no matter how bad things seem right now, to turn your marriage around and live a life of lasting happiness with your spouse.
First of all you need to understand why the marriage is failing if you're going to save it. Without a doubt, when you find yourself wondering "how can I save my marriage today?" you and your spouse have made some mistakes that are going to require some serious attention and quickly if all is not to be lost.
The size of the mistakes the two of you have made will determine how long it will take to save the marriage - and be assured it takes two to make a marriage and two to break a marriage, so the mistakes belong to both of you.
If one of you has had an affair, without a doubt it's going to take healing, forgiveness, understanding and trust all to come back into your spouse's heart before the marriage can get back on a healthy track and that will not happen over night.
If the mistakes you've both made involve growing apart, falling out of love, the creation of distance in your relationship, then that is going to require a different kind of work which will take time to repair and put right. But it is possible and in some ways more straightforward than repairing the marriage after an affair.
"How can I save my marriage today?" by making time for your spouse. Show your spouse that from time to time you will clear your schedule to be with them and do what they enjoy doing, because you love and care for them.
Date your spouse the way you used to when you were courting and take the same level of care and attention about the date that you used to before you got married: put on a lovely outfit, get your hair done, bring flowers and gifts and have eyes and thoughts only for each other.
Listen to your spouse's concerns about the children, work or life in general. Share your fears and your thoughts with your spouse on a regular basis. Ideally you should be talking with your spouse every day, but if you're both truly busy, then talking at least once a week.
Your goal, when you're searching "how to save my marriage today!" is to reconnect with your spouse and convince your spouse that you are serious about repairing the marriage and staying together.
If your spouse sees a level of commitment from you and believes you're sincere, then they can't help but be drawn back to you. After all, we all just want to be loved and needed and you throw those two things on the table and you're streets ahead of the game in saving your marriage.
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First of all you need to understand why the marriage is failing if you're going to save it. Without a doubt, when you find yourself wondering "how can I save my marriage today?" you and your spouse have made some mistakes that are going to require some serious attention and quickly if all is not to be lost.
The size of the mistakes the two of you have made will determine how long it will take to save the marriage - and be assured it takes two to make a marriage and two to break a marriage, so the mistakes belong to both of you.
If one of you has had an affair, without a doubt it's going to take healing, forgiveness, understanding and trust all to come back into your spouse's heart before the marriage can get back on a healthy track and that will not happen over night.
If the mistakes you've both made involve growing apart, falling out of love, the creation of distance in your relationship, then that is going to require a different kind of work which will take time to repair and put right. But it is possible and in some ways more straightforward than repairing the marriage after an affair.
"How can I save my marriage today?" by making time for your spouse. Show your spouse that from time to time you will clear your schedule to be with them and do what they enjoy doing, because you love and care for them.
Date your spouse the way you used to when you were courting and take the same level of care and attention about the date that you used to before you got married: put on a lovely outfit, get your hair done, bring flowers and gifts and have eyes and thoughts only for each other.
Listen to your spouse's concerns about the children, work or life in general. Share your fears and your thoughts with your spouse on a regular basis. Ideally you should be talking with your spouse every day, but if you're both truly busy, then talking at least once a week.
Your goal, when you're searching "how to save my marriage today!" is to reconnect with your spouse and convince your spouse that you are serious about repairing the marriage and staying together.
If your spouse sees a level of commitment from you and believes you're sincere, then they can't help but be drawn back to you. After all, we all just want to be loved and needed and you throw those two things on the table and you're streets ahead of the game in saving your marriage.
Now, to prove to your spouse you're serious and you want to save my marriage today, click on the link and follow ALL the instructions you find on the next page.
Because talk is cheap, so before you talk to your spouse about saving the marriage, take that step that shows your spouse you're 100% the real deal on this.
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Keep Your Marriage Going
Using the words "I love you" is not just when you are feeling pleased with your husband or when he has shown that he is the man in the house. You can say those words when you know he has hurt you, you can say them when he is downcast or when he has lost a deal. It shows that you actually love not only when the going is good but when it is tough. You are boosting his morale as well. Hearing those words from you at that time to you might not be appropriate, but to him, you just swelled up his ego!
Husbands, these words mean a lot to your wife. Whether she is a full time housewife or a working mum, saying them means to her that you love her really and that you appreciate what she is doing at the home front. You can take it a step further by doing something for her at home, no matter how little and see what will happen. She will definitely warm up to you.
Celebrate birthdays
You don't have to take her out to an expensive restaurant or totally cut down on your budget to celebrate your wife's birthday this year, if your budget does not allow for it. You can order a cake, or cook her favourite dish if you good at it or pay someone to cook it for you. You can arrange to have a surprise household birthday party. Actually, there are lots of things that you can do to celebrate your spouse's birthday without breaking your back.
One wife actually wrote that from a year before her husband's birthday, she bought a special notebook and filled in everyday while she loves her husband. She admitted that there were some days she could not write anything because he wasn't always a saint. Imagine the joy in her husband's face when she handed that notebook to him a year after!
He kept that book with him till he died. Before he died, he made his wife realize how much he loved her everyday based on what she wrote.
Let nothing take the place of sex!
What are you about to do? Ruining your marriage and thinking that sex is not important because you busy with the kids or because you are busy at work? Men will hardly sat that anyway because they know just were to get it. If you think you can starve your husband of sex and think we will still be faithful to you in the next 2 years without threatening to get separated, sister, think again.
I know that marriage is about companionship but I guess there were sparks flying when you met your husband, there was this chemical attraction. That is the chemistry. Five years after and your husband doesn't feel it? I ask again, what are you about to do?
Imagine when your children leave the nest 18 years after, you and your husbands have being living like strangers in those eighteen years. Is he the one you wqnt to turn to now?
I know it is not easy being a sexy wife, mother and a professional but that is why God gave us the strength that the man does not have and that tongue to sweet-talk your husband in when you want to and when you don't.
I know from what I have seen and read, most marriages fail because of infidelity and it is usually the wife's fault.
You see, the words "I love you" might not just be enough. Your spouse needs to see and feel that love radiating from you. He/she has to know that no matter what you do, you would never hurt them intentionally.
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Save Marriage - Appreciation, Respect, and Responsibility
Do you often feel smothered in your marriage? Do you feel that your spouse is always watching what you are doing? Does your spouse nag, complain and demand things of you and it's getting out of hand? Then this article is for you. It is not usually just one issue that leads up to divorce, separation, or feelings of resentment towards one another. It is usually many issues between couples that cause marital break down.
Give Each Other Room To Breathe: Stop Blaming Each Other
When marriage starts to sour, couples often blame each other for the disarray of the relationship. They tend to look at each other's faults and play the blame game with those faults. And this blame game is the cause of the marriage going down hill fast! Most marital issues occur because one or both parties are behaving selfishly and disrespectful of each other feelings or actions.
If couples would stop trying to dissect each other and really think about their own actions and behavior they would see that it does take two to tango and they are tangoing almost every day! I think it is human nature to blame others for our failures but it is the cowardly way to lead our life. Divorce is cowardly as well. Why don't you just act like responsible adults and take responsibility for what you started?
If one spouse would take part for their behavior in the relationship it would encourage the other spouse to take responsibility for their part in the relationship. When you nag and complain about what a bad job your spouse is doing at this and that, or when you demand that they do this or that, you are essentially acting like their mother or father instead of their lover. This can be very discouraging.
Give Each Other More Room To Breathe: Leave Each Other Alone!
When I say leave each other alone I mean in a negative way. Stop trying to tell your spouse what they need or don't need. Let them be. I truly believe that when couples stop looking at what the other spouse is doing or not doing and start paying attention to what they are doing, marriage would be so much better. I sometimes liken marriage to be like two school kids in the playground bullying one another.
We spend too much time wanting to tell our husband or wife what they need to do. Why do we want to define their needs but don't even know what our own needs are? It is because we are overwhelmed and confused about how bad our marriage is. We simply do not know how to fix it other than complain about our spouses lack in the marriage.
This constant focus on our spouse keeps us from helping ourselves and being productive for the marriage. What is important for you in your marriage? Define your own needs and wants and make those happen. Do you want to be happier? Make that a priority in your marriage by fulfilling your happiness through hobbies, friends, spiritual activities; whatever it is you feel will bring you happiness. Don't make the mistake of thinking your spouse is supposed to fulfill your every need. This error in judgment causes lots of undue stress and contention between couples.
Yes, couples need to encourage one another and be respectful and considerate of each other's feelings, but they cannot bring happiness into another person's life-it's just not possible. Happiness is something that comes from being fulfilled from within on a spiritual level. No one can share your personal relationship with your Creator-that is something between you and Him. But you can share who you are, your growth through God, with your spouse.
Give Each Other Even More Room To Breathe: Be Respectful
Respect is a very big issue in marriage. The minute they wake up couples begin disrespecting one another. Instead of saying something encouraging and nice they are bringing each other down. This is why couples often look outside the marriage for positive reinforcement of self-they aren't getting any praise and appreciation at home, so they glean it from wherever it is possible. The grass often seems greener across the fence, but it never really is in the end. It is the same thing wherever you look. Don't become deceived and totally ruin your marriage over an infidelity.
There are many circumstances that reap negative issues in marriage that create division with couples. From finances to health issues, but in a marriage where couples respect each other all issues can eventually be worked out. Why are couples not respecting each other? Because they don't understand what being respectful is? They are not focused on respecting each other because they are feeling resentful, confused and overwhelmed about the disarray of their marriage. They're blaming the blame game!
You can't understand respect when you don't understand what your part in the marriage is? Each spouse has a role in the marriage to uphold. Each spouse has responsibilities that need to be adhered to. When these roles and responsibilities are not taken care of couples begin to feel as if they are running the marriage relationship by themselves.
Couples aren't respecting each other because they don't understand what it is they are supposed to be respecting? "Uh, I'm supposed to respect a wife who grumbles and complains about cooking dinner every night?" "Oh you mean I am supposed to respect a man who comes home and flops himself down in front of the TV every night?"
Do you see how the focus is on faults rather than encouraging the person in their responsibilities? Sadly this is why couples play the blame game and why they focus so much on what the other is doing rather than on what they should be doing. It is a vicious cycle that will continue to repeat itself over and over again until something changes in the relationship. How about appreciating and respecting each other for a change. Will that work?
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When Should You go for Marriage Counseling?
When, if ever, should you consider Marriage counseling? Perhaps, rather than readily considering divorce as a viable solution, you may wish to seek the services of a marriage counselor. In the throes of rampant divorce-rates, it is encouraging that couple's counseling is very popular today.
Whatever the term "falling in love" connotes, remaining "in love" may, at least at times, appear arduous. A neglected marriage rapidly deteriorates. This deterioration may affect all aspects of your life.
The societal-impact of a healthy marriage is readily apparent. Healthy relationships, among other benefits, provide the following:
1. Longer lives.
2. Less illness.
3. Less stress.
4. Children are better-adjusted.
However, to achieve the foregoing, both partners must participate (i.e., pursue a mutually-compatible goal). It is necessary to work on keeping a healthy marriage.
Counseling often helps marital partners understand various aspects of their relationship. To achieve a fuller understanding, it is often advisable to counsel spouses both individually and jointly.
While it is true that people change as they grow older and, hopefully, mature, it is important to bear in mind that healthy couples mature together. Sadly, too few couples realize that the most profound aspects of love are derived when physicality is eclipsed by an indescribable unity in a relationship. Essentially, you see not merely the outward appearance of the object of your affection, but the totality, at least to the extent our mortal existence permits, of the other's being.
In our society, many have bought into the myth that beauty is "only skin-deep". Nothing could be further from the truth! True beauty is much, much more - it permeates the entire being.
Receiving professional help before problems reach critical stage may be beneficial to a marriage. A great deal of research is being conducted into such counseling. However, results are mixed.
Marriage counseling is certainly no panacea. Women appear to derive greater benefit from sessions than do men, but the reasons are unclear.
It may be that women who agree to such approaches may feel as though they have a greater stake in a positive outcome. There are myriad reasons why women derive greater benefit, an inquiry I will leave to my readers.
Joint-therapy sessions often bring couples together. Employed competently, these sessions will help couples pinpoint and understand conflicts by understanding causes. Once root causes of such conflicts are understood, techniques are developed to resolve them. To be effective, partners must analyze both the good and bad of their relationship.
What is the purpose of marriage counseling? While there are numerous, fundamentally such efforts are expended to help couples experiencing difficulties pinpoint and understand conflicts by understanding causes.
Licensed therapists work with couples to provide tools intended to improve communication, assisting in negotiating their differences and solving their problems. Couples work toward improving their relationships during these sessions, particularly during crisis situations.
The number of sessions required is often a factor of the extent to which the relationship has deteriorated. Irrespective of the number of sessions, the focus is on bringing partners together for joint therapy, at which time each partner is given the opportunity to analyze sources of conflicts.
Should marriage counseling be the first choice? Of course not!
However, many couples keep repeating the same mistakes. The repetition creates a sense that the pain can only end when the relationship is severed. The constant infliction of pain often results in huge craters in a relationship. Unfortunately, in the absence of adequate communication skills and a barrage of pain, despair, and increasing animosity, there appears to be no hope in salvaging a relationship.
Obviously, it is not wise to wait until a relationship erodes to the point that no hope appears to remain. At this stage, a counselor may be the last hope!
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Marriage Under Fire
Some families becomes stronger under stress, others fall apart. What is the difference?
When expectations are met in a marriage, the odds are in favor of stability. When expectations are not met, the teeter totter of marriage becomes unstable. When I was an eighteen year old sergeant in the army, a 42-year-old corporal told me that his marriage was in trouble and that he needed help. In the army, stripes can make you a marriage counselor.
I didn't think about saying, "Well, go see the chaplain!"
Eighteen-year-old sergeants know about everything they need to know. I simply asked, "What is going on?"
After he told me his situation, I said, "You have alienated your wife. You have to give her more help around the house. You have to do dishes, vacuum the floor, help her with whatever she is doing. You have to do a lot more than she does."
Now that was a tall order for a Latin macho man. Doing a woman's work was not much of a macho builder. I told him that he would not only have to do more to help her but that he would have to court her again. That was in his self image. It was something he would love to do, tried to do. I told him that he would have to help her first or she would not welcome any loving gestures. About two weeks later he came up to me and said, "Sergeant, we are happier than we have ever been in our lives. Thank you!"
Now this man had just returned from Korea. If fact, he was in the same infantry division that I was in the next year. He was near the Yalu when the Chinese invaded Korea. He got lost from his unit, joined up with a Turkish Unit attached to one of our regiments, and barely got out of Korea alive. He said that that the last he saw of the Turks was them fixing bayonets and charging down the mountain with the startled Chinese turning and running in front of them.
Separation is hard on a marriage. People change during separations. When a couple rejoins they may not be Mary and Bill but James and Henrietta. Now days, families may have both parents in the military. It is not always Johnny come marching home, its Margie comes marching home. The one away is under one kind of stress and the one at home is under other stresses. There could be an underlying current that says, "Why did you leave me alone with these kids to take care of? How could you endanger yourself when you have family responsibilities?"
Financial problems are not new to military couples. They are always wanting to make some extra money to survive. Now, with this deep recession, many families are under financial stress. Many have lost their homes and others are under the threat of losing their home.
I was raised during the Great Depression. My parents were under the threat of losing their home when President Roosevelt took over the mortgage and saved our home. Dad paid the mortgage off later and President Roosevelt got his money back and then some, a very successful endeavor on both parts. My dad was an ex-farmer and an accountant. He was out of work for two years until President Roosevelt gave him a job on the WPA as a bank examiner. He soon was offered a "real" job and went on with his life.
I asked my mother when I was a boy why there were so many cuts in the kitchen door. She said that for the two years that Dad could not get work he threw his jackknife into the door. Yet, despite the stress of the Great Depression, Dad never took his stress out on his family. He always acted like all was well.
After all, there was actually never a time in my Dad's life that he was not living in a financial depression. His family moved from ranch to ranch always going broke in the process. He and his father almost starved to death on Ten Mile Pass east of here while proving a homestead claim where grandfather helped my father make skis that allowed him to hunt which saved their lives. So, recession was the normal state for my parents. Mother had been taking care of her widowed mother and her sisters since she was fourteen years old.
We had seven kids in our family. Dad's love for our mother never failed. He was always hugging her especially if she was cooking something good. It was not only President Roosevelt that kept our family functioning. Our church had no welfare plan to helps us as they do now days. It was our neighbors who helped us. Without our neighbors, there would have been no Christmas for us.
When I was attending the University of Utah after our first son was born, we were in trouble. My wife could not work. Then one day my folks came over carrying boxes of groceries. I don't know how they knew we were in need, they just knew. We need to keep an eye on each other too. People need help and we are the ones who should be doing the helping.
When a marriage is hit by stress and when expectations are not met, we need to stop thinking of ourselves but instead think about each other. By helping each other we help ourselves too. We need to support each other.
Fly Old Glory!
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If your marriage is on the rocks due to your habit of constantly pelting mental rocks at each other then take a pause to study these 4 mind blowing ways to save a marriage and save yours too. Often, fights are caused due to battered egos or insensitive talk or action on the part of one or both spouses. Hence your 1st move should be to have an honest and ego-free talk with your spouse to remove all possible hurdles as you both can.
It is vital that you think about your spouse's feeling before you utter any word or take any drastic action. You will earn the respect of your spouse only when you show respect towards your spouse.
Instead of fighting it out , ask your spouse to sit down and write all the grievances in the form of a letter. You too should do the same thing.
You might find that most of these grievances are too silly for you to be fighting on, once you have written it down instead of indulging in verbally charged fights.
You should get ready to apologize and compromise. If you want your marriage to survive then a rigid stance will not be of much use and will only harden your spouse's stance.
Instead, be ready to apologize for your mistakes and remain in a compromising mood. Marriage itself is a compromise and it is only the level that differentiates other couples.
The last mind blowing way is to simply whisk your spouse for an extended vacation to a romantic destination. However, this move will only work if you use that time to sort out all your differences.
At least, the romantic setting will get both of you in the right mood to work towards a common solution. Many couples have returned from the brink of a disastrous marriage by using this tip.
So, do not let the situation slip out of your hands as you fight with your spouse to save your marriage. Instead, remain calm, be ready to compromise and set up the perfect location to work things out with your ex.
The Marriage Struggle
One might be tempted to think that marriage power struggles are not that common, but anyone who has ever been in a relationship where one is present, is fully aware that this concept is very valid, troublesome, and as potentially destructive in this modern day, as it ever was!
Marriage power struggles go way beyond one person wanting to be the deciding factor in topics of disagreement-- a true power-struggle exists when one partner insists on "running the show." When this kind of marriage problem exists, the result is that there is really no "marriage relationship" at all, and the other partner begins to lose more and more of his or her personal selfhood.
Marriage power struggles usually begin from one person's ingrained beliefs about what is "right." Some extreme examples are when a man believes that he must assert his "dominate authority" over his wife and his home. On the opposite side of the same coin, is the idea that a "modern woman" is one-hundred-percent on her own, with little "use" for her husband's authority. Needless to say, these are not very positive beliefs on which to build a marriage relationship that will last a lifetime!
When these extreme marriage power struggles exist, unless they are resolved there can be only two possible results-- either the marriage will fail, or one spouse will fall apart. If both spouses have the willingness and motivation to resolve the marriage problems, as well as the intelligence and personality traits needed to make doing so possible, it can often be resolved. In many cases, however, marriage counseling is necessary-- because it is very difficult to shake destructive beliefs from a person when he has held them for much of his life.
There are generally two forms of marriage power struggles.
1. The type where one person insists on "running things".
2. The type where one person shuts the spouse out of his or her life.
The ability to resolve either problem rests in both spouses' willingness and readiness to acknowledge two main points: first, that a true marriage "takes two", and, as such, each person's beliefs, needs, feelings, and input are equally essential; and second, that each is an individual person who cannot be taken advantage of, silenced, or dismissed.
Whether you have been married for a short period of time or many decades, a common factor in this problem is that many fail to recognize when a marriage power struggle becomes actual abuse. The sad part is that it often exists without a person being fully aware of it.
A marriage power struggle does not have to result in physical, sexual, or even verbal violence in order to be "abuse." This fact is the reason why many-- usually, but not always, women-- are in the position of being abused for years and even decades. They believe, erroneously, that if the person has not hit them, they are not being abused.
However, even if a marriage power struggle never escalates to physical violence, other forms of abuse which often occur are equally devastating, and equally destructive. If this sounds odd, the fact is that if a person is abused for a period of time, it has a damaging effect on her mind, her emotions, and her self-esteem.
It is abuse if your spouse exerts control over you, your actions, your life; this can range from telling you what you can and cannot wear, with whom you can and cannot associate, or where you can and cannot go. It is abusive if he monitors your actions, your whereabouts, and your privacy. It is abusive if your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and needs are dismissed as irrelevant or inconsequential. It is abusive if you are frequently put-down, ridiculed, accused or threatened. It is abusive if you are made to feel that you are accountable to your spouse, or if you are made to feel weak, small, helpless, afraid, unintelligent, unattractive, or unworthy.
While these actions are the foundation of an extreme power-struggle, they are also abuse. It is not something which you should tolerate; it is not something which you should ask marriage advice from your friends about; it is a life-diminishing situation for which you need professional assistance.
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Techniques For Troubled Marriages
Do you have a different marital partner for each area of your dysfunctional marriage? While you may still stop short of having a physical affair, all those other emotional and spiritual partnerships are indicators that your marriage is in serious trouble. Even though you may think everything is fine, chances are, you partner feels differently. Before you get served with divorce papers, you should read Save the Marriage, by Lee Baucom, PhD.
Unfortunately, almost every marital failure occurs because partners forget that there is no such thing as static needs and a static personality. As partners, you share all kinds of things. On the other hand, you still have different experiences throughout the day that affect you in different ways. Instead of assuming that you know exactly how the event changed your spouse, you will need to make use of love techniques similar to the ones you used when dating.
When was the last time you didn't engage the "auto conversation pilot" the minute you got home? Are you starting to wonder when your spouse became some kind of zombie? If so, you may be surprised by some of the cures recommended in Save the Marriage. Without a question, you won't find this information when you visit a marriage therapist, because they truly do not know how to fix your marriage.
Few people get married with the intention of having all kinds of emotional and physical affairs, let alone wind up in divorce court. At the same time, if your love techniques were not truly adequate at the beginning of your marriage, the situation will only get worse as time goes by. Today, you owe it to yourself to pick up a copy of Save the Marriage, and find out how to fix your marriage before you get broadsided by issues you don't even know about.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Secrets of Happy Couples
Why do some couples stay happy together for a lifetime, while others are in conflict almost from the beginning?
Part of the answer is compatibility - making the initial choice of a partner with whom you share common values. Equally much, however, depends upon the choices each partner chooses to make during the relationship. Here are seven choices made by happy couples:
1. Trust: Suspicion and jealousy are the death knell of any relationship. If the other is going to cheat or otherwise dishonor the relationship, suspicion and jealousy will not prevent it, and such a relationship is fatally flawed in any case. Unwarranted suspicion and jealousy create misery in a surprising number of relationships. If you want to live happily, trust your partner completely. If they dishonor your trust, deal with the situation then. In the meanwhile, your will have been happy.
2. Open Communication: Tell the truth, tell the whole truth. If you didn't want to share your whole life with your partner, why are you together? If you make a mistake, admit it. If you have doubts, talk about them. Secrets and lies kill a relationship. With truth and openness anything is possible. Even if something is unforgivable, it is better to deal with it quickly.
3. Honoring the other's point-of-view: People disagree, couples disagree. Understanding that the two partners in a couple remain individuals is crucial to a happy relationship. Why would you expect that you and your partner should agree on everything? Honor that one of you is a Republican and the other a Democrat. Honor that one of you is a vegetarian and the other loves a great steak.
4. Self-Confidence: Co-dependence is another frequent cause of failed relationships. Happy couples know that they don't need each other. Each partner is a completely whole and valid individual who has entered into a voluntary partnership. Neither "owns" the other, nor "can't live without" the other. Each has their own interests and friends, as well as having mutual interests and friends.
5. Generosity: Greed and selfishness kill relationships. True love is generous in spirit. Mostly, generosity is not about material things, although that is also important. To have a happy relationship, be generous of your time, your love, and your attention.
6. Forgiveness: Resentments and thoughts of revenge and vengeance have no place in a happy relationship. Happy couples forgive each other completely for everything the other has ever done or failed to do - no exceptions.
7. Gratitude: Happy couples are continuously grateful for each other. Every day there are a myriad of reasons to be grateful for your partner. Find those reasons each day, and thank your partner every day.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
How to Avoid Painful Heartbreak
If you are struggling to save your marriage from divorce, then you will want to special attention to the advice we have in this article. Specifically we'll discuss how to diagnose the specific problems in the marriage, then how to take action together to solve the problems and finally, to learn to be patient with the process. After you have an understanding of all of these points, you should be able to make real progress to get your marriage back on track.
The first thing you will need to do is understand when working on saving a marriage is the underlying problem that is causing your troubles. It's easy to blame the other person at this point but the reality is that you are at least half responsible for the issues you are facing. The key at this point is to be honest with yourself and your spouse. Is the issue a matter of trust, such as an affair, or are you having financial troubles or are you just not in love anymore? No matter what it is, be truthful and direct no matter how much pain is involved. If you don't feel you can do this directly, consider getting a counselor to help.
Once you have both communicated your feelings, then the next step will be deciding on a course of action together. For example, if the main issue in your marriage is financial problems, then you will both need to agree to get on a budget and manage spending together. Since the main issue is that either one or both of you spends more than they make, by working together as a team you can rebuild a bond that will rekindle feelings of trust and affection. These are important building blocks to saving your marriage from divorce.
After you have identified the problem and decided on a course of action together, the last step in saving a marriage will be to have patience with the process. It is likely that your problems did not arise overnight and so they will take time to work themselves out. Along the way, there will surely be times that you will second guess the decision to stay together but the key is to persevere. You should only consider splitting up after you have both given the plan an honest effort and time to work.
Saving your marriage from divorce can be a very difficult and challenging process. However, if you can take the time to identify the problems, agree on a course of action and stay patient with the process you have a very good chance to regain the happiness you once had. We wish you the best of luck in your journey.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
Money and Marriage - Money Issues Can Spoil Your Marriage - Don't Let This Happen to You
You are in love and you could never imagine in a million years that money could possibly be an issue in your relationship. Unfortunately reality shows us that one of the major causes of a marriage failure is to do with money issues. It is especially common for those in a second marriage.
Many of us have been brought up to be private about our money. It's not the thing to do to talk about our finances with friends and other people -- some consider it to be vulgar. This means that we become reluctant to talk on money issues. The reality is that when you enter marriage you need to be more open with one another -- open and honest.
You both bring to the marriage a different view on finances. You have most likely been brought up to handle money differently. And you will most likely have very different spending personalities. Discussing your spending style is crucial as it is one of the first habits that will show cracks in your relationship. Getting married means looking at these differences, understanding them and coming up with compromises.
Set aside time each month to talk about money issues. Talk about your dreams for the future and the financial cost that this might entail. Do a budget and put money aside for your dream. Respect one another and make sure that each of you has your own money to spend without having to ask the other for permission -- this is a MUST.
Should you share your money and properties? If one of you brings more financial assets to the marriage you need to discuss this sooner rather than later. Further down the road it may become a major money issue. It may not sound romantic but you may even need to have legal documents drawn up to protect each of your assets. None of us likes to think that our marriage will not work but if you can talk honestly while you are still in love you will be fair to one another. A joint account can work well to build your finances together.
Money and marriage do not necessarily go hand in hand with happiness and therefore it is important that you look at money issues from the start with love, understanding, compromise, respect and honesty. Taking this approach can save a lot of heartache and misunderstanding. It will help you to weather some of the financial storms that befall all of us over time and can bring you closer together.
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solutions to marriage problems
Now and then during marriage, we can find ourselves in some little tiffs. If this happens enough, this can actually lead to bigger problems or even separation. Marriage is by no means an easy task to take. Couples that got along fine during dating soon find that being married brings on a whole new array of problems.
Those who never fought can soon find themselves fighting over petty problems. Things that weren't a big deal suddenly become huge. If these problems are not dealt with the right way then you could find yourself facing huge marital problems. This is not a good thing because you were supposed to marry this person to enjoy life together with them.
There are certain things that can be done to help repair a broken relationship, or one that has resulted in a separation. You do not have time to be waiting out your problems. Problems do not get solved on their own as most will find out. Sure it is nice to pretend that everything is okay and delay confrontation, but this is not a solution to your problems.
The first thing that needs to be done is for you to realize that is there is a problem, and that you need help. Couples therapy is always there, but often these types of situations can actually make the situations worse. The marriage counselor may not be very good at his job, and you may just bring out even more anger in these sessions.
For help with marriage it is much better for your relationship if you show that you are trying to improve in order to save your relationship. One of the best things you can do is to take a look at what others have done for solid marriage advice on things you can do right now to improve your marriage.
Friday, April 10, 2009
4 ingredients of a successful marriage
There are steps you need to take if you want to experience a successful marriage. I will be telling you 4 ingredients of a successful of marriage.
- There must be a well define purpose in your marriage. That is what makes marriage works. Whether you marry early or marry late, there must be purpose in that marriage. There are people that are so afraid that they avoid getting married. They sometimes wait until they are forty or fifty because they have read a lot about marriage that have broken down. Whenever people are told: “you are getting old, what are you waiting for?” They usually come up with excuses. No matter how long you wait there must be purpose, a well – defined purpose in marriage before your marriage can be successful.
- Another ingredient that needs to be present in your marriage is love. Broadly speaking, there are two levels of love; human love and divine love. Divine love is called Agape. It is a special kind of love and comes from above. This type of love is real, deep and sacrificial. It is not ephemeral. It is the type of love which makes you overlook the weak point of your spouse.
- There must be commitment to providing for the home on the part of the partners. The husband should always think of what he can d for the wife. The wife should also look for avenue of meeting her husband’s felt needs. Also, you should note important events and date in your spouse’s life and give him or her surprises once a while. As a woman, if you are fixing meals for your husband, do it joyfully.
The last point will make me look like a pastor. I am going to tell you truth and only the truth. There must be partnership with God. You like it or not , you need to operate with the lord in building your home. The institution of marriage is ordained by God. It is not something that just evolved from our social system. Sometimes there are people who talk about the liberation of women. The so called women liberation movement have come too late because, two thousand years ago Jesus Christ liberated all believing women from bondage. So , all these women who are saying that marriage is bondage are only displaying blatant ignorance as far as the perfect will of God is concerned.
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Click Here!Safeguarding Your Marriage Today
Are you and your partner slowly drifting apart? Do you find yourself fighting all that time or talking about divorce? Are one or both of you secretly wondering if you are going to make it or even if you can save your marriage?
The good news is that you are definitely not alone. Each year millions of marriages find themselves in similar situations and many of them end up in great place later in their marriage because they have a commitment to working it out and the right information to help them along the way.
Regardless of the circumstances each couple is going to need to master the number one required skill of resolving conflict. Once a couple learns to navigate these waters they will be able to learn about and handle the different issues that generally cause trouble for couples like:
- surviving an affair
- poor intimacy
- excessive bickering
- poor communication
- lack of quality time with each other
- parenting issues
- dealing with a difficult spouse
Whatever the specific issues once you learn to resolve conflict you can get information on how to deal with these other issues. The good news is that since people have been having marriage problems for so long and since so many professionals have been studying these relationships, there is now a great body of knowledge about the necessary skills to survive and thrive in marriage. Just as you can take good information and learn to play golf or tennis effectively you can literally learn and be trained to have a great and satisfying marriage.
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