Friday, June 12, 2009


In pre marital system we have 7 stages that we must follow before going into marriage proper. Before going into that I will like to make clear what marriage really entails, because a lot of us don’t really know marriage is. For the singles we have to really know what we are going into, because if you don’t know where you’re everywhere looks like the place.
What are things to know about marriage?
1. Marriage is the foundation for the family. When there is no marriage, there cannot be family.
2. Marriage involves two people.
3. Marriage is a divine institution. Allow me to quote a scripture here to make it clear to you that marriage is a divine institution. Genesis 2: 18 {Gen 2:18 And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
Gen 2:19 And out of the ground Jehovah God formed every animal of the field and every fowl of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.
Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the air, and to every animal of the field. But there was not found a suitable helper for Adam.
Gen 2:21 And Jehovah God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept. And He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh underneath.
Gen 2:22 And Jehovah God made the rib (which He had taken from the man) into a woman. And He brought her to the man.}

4. Marriage is the first institution on earth.
5. The institution of marriage is close to the he art of God.
6. God was practically involved in the institution of first marriage.

Now that we know what marriage really entails, we need to know the pre- marital stages of marriage.

These stages have to be followed strictly to build a strong and good marriage.

• Propose
• Preparation
• Proceeds
• Promoting
• Protest
• Protect
• Possess

• Propose: Adventure into marriage starts with proposals. It requires you walking to a lady and telling her that you want to marry her. Don’t go to a lady and tell her that God told you that you’re my wife. God doesn’t tell people such things. To support th is point let me quote Porverb 18: 222 {Pro 18:22 Whoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the LORD. } can you see the word FINDETH.

• Preparations: putting the fact finding to build the future you are anticipating. Preparation should come after proposal because the fact finding should be from your partner. You must make sure you agree physically spiritually and mentally.

• Proceed: you are not permitted to until you are satisfied with available fact you’ve gathered. This time you can go ahead and inform you friends and family. The most important thing is , you must be sure you agr ee before proceeding .

• Promoting: this is preparing and promoting the plan for the marriage.

• Protest: letting your partner know some unpleasant thing that you don’t like. What ever you don’t like, please don’t overlook. Always et you patner know what you don’t like.

• Protect: you protect yourself from defilement. { Heb 13:4 Let marriage be had in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. } ( for those that asked me if its good to have sex before marriage , I think you can answer the question yourself. Judge if it is good or not.) You also protect yourself from hearing negative things about your partner.

I think with the knowledge of this seven p’s of pre- marital success system we should be able to build a success and productive relationship

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

How to Generate Instant Attraction in a Woman (And Make Her Want You)

Attention guys - there may be some men in your group who seem to have no difficulty at all seducing women. The problem is, they won't tell you their secrets because you will just add to the competition.

You can try looking at how they seduce women from afar, but if you don't know the smooth players' code to turning beautiful women into love slaves, you won't go anywhere near the success rate these men flaunt all the time.

But before I share my own 'killer seduction' tips, let's get one thing straight. The first thing you need to work on to be successful is your mindset when it comes to dating. Here's something you might not have heard before: attracting a girl has got NOTHING to do with her, - but rather, it has got everything to do with how you tell her things and how you make your words hit their mark.

So, if you're dying of envy looking on as other men manage to attract girls easily, you will need the following tips on how to make women fall helplessly in love with you. Read on to discover the surefire ways to get a woman attracted to you and want to date you using three "secret" seduction tricks.

How to generate instant attraction using three covert seduction tactics

Technique #1 - "The Thickening Drama Plot". Dramatic sequences and endings make girls' hearts flutter. If you can make her go through an emotional roller coaster by inducing drama through conversation, you will get her full attention.

Women want to hear about things and situations that touch them on the emotional level. The way you connect with her emotions is the strongest tool you have to make her dive headlong in a romantic adventure with you. The thing is, women are always looking for emotional scenes to fire up their imaginations, consciously or subconsciously. If you can perfect this technique, you can get her hooked on you for good.

Technique #2 - "Strategic Boredom". While you're in conversation with a woman, there might come a time when she feels like you're hanging on to her every word. When this happens, you risk sabotaging your chances with this girl simply because she feels her power over you. Here's what you do: show boredom to make her work harder for your attention.

Technique #3 - "Fractionation". Using this technique (stolen from the field of hypnosis), master seducers have been known to seduce women and make them fall in love very quickly - in a span of 15 minutes or even less. Here's how you do it - bring the woman through an emotional roller coaster, and in the process get her to feel emotionally 'addicted' to you. As a result, she will be obedient and will do anything you ask her to.

Fractionation is very effective, but please use it responsibly if you must.

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Getting Your Ex Back After an Affair - How to Restore Trust

How hard is it to get your ex back once you've cheated on them? You may feel that an affair automatically means an end to your relationship. But it doesn't have to be that way. When both people really want to work things out it's possible to save the relationship. My article is about how to restore trust in marriage.

You will need to find ways to build trust between you and your partner. Usually this means adjusting your attitude as well as your actions.

When you had an affair, you adopted an attitude that led to you cheating on your husband or wife. You need to figure out why you had that attitude. There may be something diseased at the heart of your relationship. You want to find out what it is so you can heal it.

Think about what you were seeking when you had the affair.

* Did he not have enough time for you?
* Was your sex life too routine?
* Was she nagging you all the time?
* Do you feel like you couldn't get close to your spouse?

If things were perfect in your relationship, you would not have cheated. You need to find out what you can do to fix it. Certainly, you will need to look deep inside your self for what is wrong, but you can't overlook the need for both parties to analyze the relationship.

Before trust can be fully restored you will have to work on fixing the problems. You may need to seek counseling together to get to the heart of things.

In order to restore the trust in your relationship, you must act upon what you talk about. Deciding what needs to be done is useless if you don't act upon it.

Start with the little, everyday things. Let your partner know that they can count on you to take the trash out, for instance and do it every evening. When you follow through and be consistent doing the small things you promise to do you are also showing your spouse that they can have confidence in you. A gradual sense of trust is being built in your relationship.

You will also need to provide constant reassurance to your wife that you have changed. Be mentally prepared that she will bring up the betrayal when it comes to mind and you will need to learn to be patient and ready to apologize. You can't have the mindset that once you've apologized that you will never need to do so again. You deeply hurt your partner and it will take time and love to heal.

However, you can't be weighed down with guilt forever. If he keeps bringing your indiscretion all the time to make you feel guilty, it's time to let him know that you must move on with your relationship. Let him know you understand his pain, but you need to work on rebuilding.

One of the ways to rebuild is to use the incident as an opportunity for you both to learn and grown from. In the same way that a bone gets stronger at the point it was broken, your relationship can strengthen and get better after the shock of an affair that almost breaks you.

You can get your ex back after an affair, but restoring trust will take time and effort. You will have to adjust your attitude and your actions, but you can heal the wounds and become even stronger as a couple.
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How Tell If Your Spouse is Lying - Ultimate Ways to Catch a Lie and Become a Human Lie Detector

Most of us enter relationships and marriage with hope and trust. We are hopelessly in love and that makes us trust our partners completely. When everything seems to be going smoothly, we get this strange uncanny feeling deep inside that the possibility of our spouse lying could be a reality.

Of course we would hope it's not true but we have to accept facts right? How can you tell if your spouse is cheating behind your back or lying?

Here are 4 tips you would find useful to help you find out if your spouse is indeed lying to you.

If your spouse is betraying you the first tell tale sign would be their body language. Whatever you think is always reflected in your body because both work in coordination. So, check out these four telltale signs in your spouse's body.

Tip 1. Look your spouse straight in their eyes. If they are lying they would definitely avert their eyes and wouldn't look you in the eyes when they speak with you. Every time you confront them they would put up a busy image and try to avert conversations.

Tip 2. Watch them closely as they go about their work at home. You will find they are extremely restless especially when you are around. It's their conscience that's pricking them saying "You are a cheater".

Their body gestures when talking with you would be highly animated. This clearly shows they are nervous and feeling guilt.

Tip 3. Another tip you could use is the need to watch their speech. People who tend to lie will never appear relaxed and their voice will have modulations and fluctuations.

They would either speak too loudly or whisper so you will not be able to hear what is being said. They would also clear their throats quite often before answering your questions and stammering is very normal.

Tip 4. If your spouse has been trying to avoid you in recent times then be sure they are cheating on you and would not want to be confronted with this fact as they would have to lie.

Of late, if your spouse is quiet and tries to avoid you then be sure something fishy is going on behind your back.
Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick which will have your husband/wife begging you to take them back. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will stop your divorce instantly even if it seems utterly hopeless. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out
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