Do you have a different marital partner for each area of your dysfunctional marriage? While you may still stop short of having a physical affair, all those other emotional and spiritual partnerships are indicators that your marriage is in serious trouble. Even though you may think everything is fine, chances are, you partner feels differently. Before you get served with divorce papers, you should read Save the Marriage, by Lee Baucom, PhD.
Unfortunately, almost every marital failure occurs because partners forget that there is no such thing as static needs and a static personality. As partners, you share all kinds of things. On the other hand, you still have different experiences throughout the day that affect you in different ways. Instead of assuming that you know exactly how the event changed your spouse, you will need to make use of love techniques similar to the ones you used when dating.
When was the last time you didn't engage the "auto conversation pilot" the minute you got home? Are you starting to wonder when your spouse became some kind of zombie? If so, you may be surprised by some of the cures recommended in Save the Marriage. Without a question, you won't find this information when you visit a marriage therapist, because they truly do not know how to fix your marriage.
Few people get married with the intention of having all kinds of emotional and physical affairs, let alone wind up in divorce court. At the same time, if your love techniques were not truly adequate at the beginning of your marriage, the situation will only get worse as time goes by. Today, you owe it to yourself to pick up a copy of Save the Marriage, and find out how to fix your marriage before you get broadsided by issues you don't even know about.